The Blame Game

Are You Playing The Blame Game? 

I recently received a text message that contained this definition for blame:  “When someone does something harmful or hurtful that necessitates a specific reaction, which allows you to hold others responsible for what you do or fail to do is blame. “   

Blaming others for our inability to response in a positive manner does not excuse inappropriate behavior.   Situations regularly occur when least expected, consequently we may react poorly.   However, that does not mean the only recourse is to hold someone else responsible.    To forgive someone or overlook the harm caused under some circumstances seems almost impossible.   When do we become responsible for our reactions, regardless of what occurred?   Blaming others is frequently used as an excuse when we behaved badly.   It comes as no surprise when I hear someone say, “look what you made me do,” or “look what they made me do it.”  Stop lying to yourself.  Stop blaming others for what you fail to or not to do that could make the situation better.  Blaming others prevent us from seeing the part we have placed.   Our first reactions should not be figuring out who’s at fault.   To place blame on something or someone else somehow makes us feel less guilty or at fault for the circumstance.  What happens when no one or thing is at fault?  Do we then place blame elsewhere?  Certainly, if we take responsibility for what has occurred we feel as if we have let ourselves and others down.  But are we at fault?  Of course not, society has conditioned us to play the blame game attempting to prevent us from feeling like failures.  In each life, some rain must fall and some other shits going to happen and it’s no one’s fault.   Instead of blaming yourself or someone else for undesirable events, allow yourself to think in a more positive way.   When misfortune strikes it’s not always the result of malicious intent.   I believe in the decree of God.  Which means sometimes life lessons show up to demonstrate much-needed instructions on capabilities were we requirement growth.  Learning patient, love, gratitude or forgiveness there’s a painful situation in direct association with growth in that area.  The next time some misfortunes event strikes remember there’s a lesson to be learned.  Learn each lesson as they come, for surely, they will return with a stronger message. "Adrienne Vanterpool"